If you read the title of this post, you are possibly scrunching up your face in confusion, rolling your eyes or holding your breath with anticipation. What could I possibly tell you that could be that powerful? Let me tell you folks, it’s something so simple that you may have overlooked it 100 times before. I don’t want this to just roll over you, and you to shrug your shoulders and move on. I want this message to resonate deep within you, so that you believe it with every part of you. I want to share a secret that will change your life…
How often do you put things off or miss out on opportunities out of fear of looking stupid or not being liked. We live in a society that is so set on boxing us in, painting us all with the same brush, demanding conformity and the status quo. Our culture doesn’t celebrate differences.
But I want to challenge that!
I want you to dance, sing and stand up for what you believe in, completely uninhibited. One of the greatest truths you will ever hear is this: nobody is looking at you!
The SECRET to being happy, beautiful and successful is…to simply not care what people think of you.
People who know this truth will no longer be bound by the chains of imperfection. You will realize that everyone is focusing on themselves and they are far too consumed with that to notice if your fringe is sticking up or your jeans are a little tight.
If someone puts you down, then that is just a reflection of their own insecurities. I hope you will be secure enough in yourself to realize that you don’t need to seek validation of your self-worth from others. Anyone else’s opinion is invalid. Period.
I personally struggled with trying to control my size. I wasn’t trying to lose weight to become healthier, to have more energy or vitality. No, I was doing it purely to reach some idealistic version of myself. In my head, I believed that when I got down to my “goal weight” I would be beautiful, confident and people would like and respect me.
I’m afraid to say that, that mindset is delusional. Because to start with, the people who love, respect and want to be around you, do NOT do so because of the way you look. You aren’t friends with someone because they have long luscious hair, gorgeous tanned skin or a mega-watt smile. That would be ridiculous. You are friends with people who make you laugh, comfort you and help you to become a better person.
The reality is, nobody knows what your pant size is…and nobody CARES… so neither should you!
If you would only stop for a minute you would realize that everyone has their quirks and special qualities that make them unique. Some of the things you HATE the most about yourself, (be it your weight, lack of musical ability or shyness) will be something that someone else is dying to have or be like.
You are NEVER going to be perfect. Therefore, you will NEVER be satisfied. So just stop chasing that unattainable, demanding, life-draining desire to be perfect. To be a plastic Barbie-doll or cookie cutter human like you see splashed all over magazines.
Instead, practice loving yourself. Start celebrating you. Be unique. Be quirky. Your spunk and sparkle is what makes you, you.
I don’t care if you are a size 6 or a size 20. If you slink into the shadows or tap dance in the limelight. If you are a super leader or an excellent follower… YOU have got something beautiful to share with the world, and it’s time to stop letting your weight or any other insecurity hold you back from sharing it!
As a Christian I personally seek to please God above all else. He is my Father and my creator. I am his. Nobody else has the right to tell me how I should be. There is something bigger than us in this world, and I believe that He designed me, flaws and all, just as I am to play a part in making a change.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” And therefore I shall boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses so that Christ’s power may rest on me. – 2 Corinthians 12 v 9
I have a dream that one day we will live in a world where we feel comfortable enough in our own skin to not let anything or anyone stop us from achieving our goals.
Join me in celebrating our weaknesses, flaws and imperfections. You are a puzzle piece that fits perfectly into the world. I know you can have an amazing life, and achieve things beyond your wildest dreams…you’ve just got to give yourself a chance.
It’s YOUR life. It’s time to start acting like it!